We seniors share many, if not most, of the challenges that our younger peers must face. One of those struggles, at least in my case, is negative thinking. By that I mean, the way we talk to ourselves. It is often termed, self-talk.
I don’t consider myself to be a patient person. Oh, I try to be patient with other people, but when talking with myself, I am certainly not patient. Actually, I can get quite angry with the clown I see in the mirror.
How about you? Do you notice when negative, self-destructive thoughts creep into your mind? If you’re like me, you likely even discourage yourself with negative self-talk. Beware of these negative processes! You can get overwhelmed with the negativity of your self-destructive thoughts.
Are you sending yourself these troubled messages? Each example below is followed by suggestions about how to banish the thought for good:
1. No one understands me. If you feel this way, then examine how it is that you have many people around you – friends, family members, and co-workers – and still you believe no one “gets” you.
2. I don’t have enough time to “___________” (go after my dreams, get healthy, indulge in my beloved hobbies, or fill in your own other ideas). If the only things you have time to do are things you have to do, it sure doesn’t make life much fun.
3. I don’t deserve to have a happy life. Perhaps choices you’ve made in the past have caused you considerable psychological pain. You’ve been beating yourself up emotionally over those decisions. However, if you’ve identified them as poor choices, you’ve learned not to repeat them.
4. Things never seem to work out for me. This is a general statement that colors how you feel about yourself. It sends a subtle self-message: “I must not be doing anything right.”
5. If I can’t do it perfectly, then I’m not doing it at all. It’s positive that you want to do your best in all that you do. But how will you try anything new if it has to be done perfectly? Thinking this way will prevent you from ever venturing outside your comfort zone.
6. I’m afraid to do the things I really want to do. What are you specifically afraid of? The source of your fears could likely be embarrassment, failure, or what others will think. In reality, it’s healthy to have a certain amount of fear when embarking upon something new or unknown.
When negative thoughts begin to invade your mind, nip them in the bud with the above suggestions. Banish your self-destructive thoughts forever and live a life filled with joy and serenity. After all, you deserve it.
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